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Engaging in whatever you are doing or experiencing. It is a skill that allows us to make space from living in our past or feared future. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/59ea6d112aeba5626b3b376c/1604933641275-1IVDXXBGN8DL9U4Q94G3/image-asset.jpeg Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT) - EXpansion This ACT process is about building our capacity to notice and name unpleasant sensations and feelings. To make space for them and to allow them to exist. To drop our struggle and fight against them. Not because we like them to be there, but because we are relating to these feelings in a new way that reduces their power and influence over us. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/59ea6d112aeba5626b3b376c/1604934093074-S0FOAMPCONDVTLPCNHAS/image-asset.jpeg Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT) - Defusion This ACT process is about relating to our thoughts in a new way in order to reduce the impact and power that they have over us. We become better at noticing and naming thoughts. We put distance between ourselves and harsh unhelpful thoughts. Thoughts that increase depression and anxiety. Thoughts and limiting beliefs that limit our ability to engage life and relationships in meaningful ways. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/59ea6d112aeba5626b3b376c/1604934666932-FA2L60HX1OUHVRWM1VK7/image-asset.jpeg Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT) - the observing self This ACT process builds our ability to make the distinction between our “thinking self” and our “observing self.” The “observing self” can also be described as the “noticing self.” When we engage and build our connection with our “observing self” we strengthen our ability to relate to our difficult thoughts and feelings in ways that further decrease their power and increase our capacity for flexible perspective taking and for flexible behavioral responses. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/59ea6d112aeba5626b3b376c/1604935172055-7PBNH9Y34X1EW9UBBPL0/image-asset.jpeg Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT) - Values This ACT process is about knowing what is important to you in life. What kind of person you want to be. How you would like to treat those around you. What you want to stand for in life. Our personal values point the way when all else seems uncertain. Our values provide direction and motivation for action and for making meaningful changes in our life. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/59ea6d112aeba5626b3b376c/1604935516429-LN5OUHWK4EGC8MCQQSI3/image-asset.jpeg Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT) - Committed action This ACT practice is about taking action. Action that is guided by our values and moves us in the direction of a rich, full, and meaningful life. 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Developing a map of the world of their partners, of their relationship and its history, and of their partner’s history, concerns, preferences, and the current world of their partner. Intervention: Love Map Exercise, Open-Ended Questions Exercise https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/59ea6d112aeba5626b3b376c/1588959809093-47OGG3KC3EGBHPLECQMO/image-asset.jpeg The Sound House - Fondness & Admiration Purpose: The antidote for contempt. Changing a habit of mind from scanning the environment for a partner’s mistakes to a habit of mind that scans for what their partner is doing right. Building a culture of appreciation, fondness, affection, and respect. Interventions: , Fondness & Admiration Questionnaire, Appreciation Exercise, Appreciation Diary https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/59ea6d112aeba5626b3b376c/1588960750412-WBTUZEJQFZMC3TG22AYE/image-asset.jpeg The Sound House - Turn Towards Purpose: Bids for emotional connection and closeness. Turning towards versus turning away in everyday moments. Building awareness for how one’s partner asks for connection and expresses emotional needs, and deciding to turn towards those bids - building up the “Emotional Bank Account.” Interventions: Bid Awareness Exercise, Turning Towards Bids Exercise, Rituals of Connection Exercise https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/59ea6d112aeba5626b3b376c/1588966648692-7NSSR97VQRBHT4CVFYM9/image-asset.jpeg The Sound House - Positive Perspective Purpose: The presence of positive feelings and emotions in problem solving discussions. Positive perspective fundamentally supports the success of repair attempts during conflict resolution. Positive attitudes and assumptions about each other. Seeing and experiencing your partner not as your adversary, but as your friend. Interventions: This positive perspective is like an “on” or “off” switch for knowing that your partner has your and the relationship’s best interest at heart and it is built on the foundation of the couple’s friendship. It is not possible to instantly change a Perpetually Negative Perspective to Perpetually Positive Perspective, except by changing the quality of the couple’s friendship by using the first three levels of the Sound Relationship House. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/59ea6d112aeba5626b3b376c/1588968054113-UXQ8HY2ZPJ2AJ8CC1D5H/image-asset.jpeg The Sound House - Conflict Purpose: Identify the core issues and understand what triggers escalation of conflict. Triggers for escalation include contempt, criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling, belligerence, & domineering. Understand the historical significance of these triggers for each person in the relationship. The history inside and outside of the relationship. Conflicts are one of two types: Type 1: Resolvable Interventions: Softened Startup, Accepting Influence, Repair, Physiological Soothing, Positive Perspective, & Compromise. Type 2: Perpetual Interventions: Establish a dialogue about the perpetual problem through a perspective that allows for interest, affection, humor, empathy, excitement, softening, & physiological soothing. Even when discussing a disagreement. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/59ea6d112aeba5626b3b376c/1590098015103-L112RVU155O45H6SH2BB/image-asset.jpeg The Sound House - Make Life Dreams Come True Purpose: Intentionally building positive feelings and emotions by helping one’s partner realize important life dreams and making the relationship, in general, effective at making dreams and aspirations come true. Interventions: This aspect of the relationship is key for unlocking perpetual problem gridlock. Explore each partner’s values in relation to the perpetual problem in order to move towards understanding and compromise. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/59ea6d112aeba5626b3b376c/1589138388641-FAKQEY8PO80K47RR84YU/image-asset.jpeg The Sound House - Create Shared Meaning Purpose: Intentionally create a sense of shared meaning in life together. This section is about the formal and informal rituals of connection in a relationship and a family. It is an area where the couple explores the meaning of everyday rituals, holiday cycles, rites of passage, roles in the relationship and in each partner’s family of origin. It involves not only rituals within the relationship but rituals involving the relationship with the larger community, the church, charity, others in need, the children’s school, and political events, and so on. Intervention: Ask and understand your shared goals as a couple; life missions, legacy you wish to leave the world with, career, culture, religion, spirituality. Here we can also search for common ground and discrepancies between each other, and discrepancies between your values and what you actually do with the time you have as individuals and as a couple. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/59ea6d112aeba5626b3b376c/1588972656570-9CVTLSALXE0LIQA72TOX/image-asset.jpeg The Sound House - Trust Purpose: Trust is the state that occurs when a person knows that his or her partner acts and thinks to maximize that person’s interests, and maximize that person’s benefits, not just the partner’s own interests and benefits. In other words, this means “my partner has my back and is there for me.” Interventions: Phase 1: Atone through taking responsibility and willingness to make up for the wrongdoing. Be completely transparent about the wrongdoing. Be transparent in the willingness and actions that correct the wrongdoing for your partner. Phase 2: Rebuild safety, confidence, and intimacy in the relationship through understanding and respecting your partner’s inner world and consistently committing to actions that demonstrate understanding and respect towards your partner. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/59ea6d112aeba5626b3b376c/1588972681675-2M6HS0OERB6BSN1LSUCG/image-asset.jpeg The Sound House - Commitment Purpose: The couple’s belief, and acting on that belief, that their relationship with each other is a lifelong journey, for better or for worse. Intervention: Cherishing your partner’s positive qualities and nurturing gratitude about what you have with this person by comparing your partner favorably with real or imagined others, rather than trashing your partner by magnifying their negative qualities, and nurturing resentment by comparing your partner unfavorably with real or imagined others. https://lucrolin.com/book-summaries daily 0.75 2020-11-05 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/59ea6d112aeba5626b3b376c/1598827883717-0GVUR4PSTMZHYHEUFOSQ/image-asset.jpeg Book Summaries https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/59ea6d112aeba5626b3b376c/1598828285177-M2K1S4ITTNWTLV74GVRH/41ih1zd4UQL._SL500_.jpg Book Summaries - How to be an imperfectionist by Stephen Guise Perfectionism is damaging. Every one struggles with perfectionism. It is prevalent in our thoughts and society. Perfectionism is linked to procrastination, depression, disordered eating, and suicide. It gives the illusion of superiority, but is actually a restrictive and inferior mindset. Perfectionism keeps us from striving and working towards our goals because it keeps us stuck in the safety of excuses. inaction, and invisibiliy. Read full book summary https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/59ea6d112aeba5626b3b376c/1600824372991-WX9V4DBQS6XSKMRBYFVX/The+Self-Confidence+Workbook.jpg Book Summaries - The Self-Confidence Workbook by Barbara Markway, PhD and Celia Ampel Self-confidence is to “act with trust in self.” Expecting or waiting to feel confident is a trap that keeps us stuck in a low-confidence loop. The less confident we feel, the less action we take and the more we avoid life. The more we avoid life and taking action the more we loose confidence. The good news is that self-confidence is a learnable skill. Building self-confidence is a choice that requires a willingness to live your values in the face unknown and uncertain outcomes. Read full book summary https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/59ea6d112aeba5626b3b376c/1600825953429-86RBDXY9OYL6C8UFV395/30741498._SY475_.jpg Book Summaries - The Art of Extraordinary Confidence by Dr. Aziz Gazipura Confidence is the willingness to do what it takes, coupled with follow-through on taking action. We build confidence by building our ability to be aware of the excuses, stories, and beliefs that keep us stuck and living small. As we confront the stories, we uncover what actions are necessary to build the life we want. This process of building confidence starts from the inside and expands outward as we develop our ability to recognize our priorities, our values, and our worth. And along the way find out that the love, acceptance, and belonging that we have been seeking from others has been inside of us all along. 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